You Become Your Friends

Not many people take much time to think about the people they are with. The people that they call their friends. Nor do they take the time to think about the activities that they share with their friends.


Friend: “Want to go to the concert this weekend?”

You: “Heck yeah, I’ve been waiting all week to go!”

What happens during the concert or after the concert might be an event that challenges your character. Your inner truth to yourself. Your personal standard.

The choice you make during challenging situations shapes who you are, from the moment you make that choice. Did you make a good choice? Just remember that the choice you made is right for you. No matter how small the decision may seem, it will shape a future outcome. And the outcome shapes your character. Then shaping who you are as a person.

Do you feel that you need to improve yourself? Or you might feel that you need to improve your situation? When was the last time you took a good hard look at the people you allow around you? Who are they? What do they do? Would you allow for them to spend personal time with you? I ask myself these questions all the time when I meet new people.

Now I don’t just come out and ask them a bunch of questions about their personal life. I find those answers over time as I build a new friendship. If something that I don’t agree with comes up. I simply just move on. I’m not saying that they are bad people, I’m just saying that they have potential to shape my future. And I’m taking a more active rule in shaping my future by spending time with people who are more like I want my future to be. My character is my future.

Family? Family are friends that are given to you at birth. They are not the friends you choose. Family can also influence a decision for good or bad. Simply because you spent a good portion of your life with them. They had some hand in helping you build your character you have today.

I’m doing my best to keep to my own truth than to allow a family member influence a decision. It is not always easy to ignore their influence. This time I was glad I had. I feel that my future will be brighter because of that decision. I simply just have to continue to follow through on the rewards or consequences of that decision. Maybe a little of both? I have to see what becomes of the future I am currently trying to build. With my success, I will have broken away from being a society survivalist.

I have spent a better part of two decades becoming a better person. Finding new friends from people who are who I would want to be. It took a lot of patience and time to acquire these friends. Also took a lot of personal work. The reward for my efforts has been wonderful. Lastly, I do everything I can, not to let old friends or family influence my chosen future.

The last few weeks have brought some lessons to me.

The choice you make is right for you.

Be true to your heart, or in the case of this blog, true to your character.

What choices will I make today?


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